I’m a mother and a grandparent, and I dearly love my daughter and two grandchildren.
But, the question I pose to you today is can individuals only be family through biology or marriage?
Based upon experience, my thought is that people who care about you through love and concern can be family.
We met a wonderful couple while camping last year. Let’s face it, when I knocked on their trailer door and asked for help and they both came out with a smile, I knew I had met some nice folks.
Since that time, we have camped together, visited together, and learned together. And, during all of those encounters, they have come to care about and love my two grandchildren and the feeling is mutual.
So, what really makes people family? I think it is the small things like talking to and not at someone, listening – really listening, spending time with them, and truly caring about their health and well-being.
It is something you recognize when you see it. It is cutting down full size arrows to make them fit a starter bow and taking the time to teach two young children how to use a bow safely.
It is picking berries and apples to give to us because they know we appreciate and enjoy them. It is trading plants – they have blackberries, we have raspberries. It is sometimes bringing syrup or jelly when they visit just because they know my grandson loves it.
Last fall, they lent us sap pails and taught our family how to collect and boil maple sap resulting in delicious maple syrup. But besides all these kind things they have done, most importantly they have taken the time to understand the daily challenges of children living with Type 1 Diabetes and food allergies.
There’s that old saying you can pick your friends but not your family. Well, in this case we beat the odds, because we picked friends that became like family. Our lives are richer because of them.
Grandson (6): I like fishing with my special friend, and I love their delicious jellies they give to us.
Granddaughter (11): Great pair of camping friends – they’re fun.
This post was linked to Family Home and Life Say It Saturday.