Flashback

Over the weekend, we decided to get some iced coffee on the way home from an errand. Around the circle we went, ready to make the turn, when I saw a little girl sitting on the ground next to a car in the parking lot. Strange.

We made the turn, pulled around the building to get in the drive thru lane, and there she is sitting right next to the lane. A cute, blonde, 2-3 year old little girl, with her dress hiked up and her bare bottom exposed sitting on a tiny potty chair while Dad stood nearby scrolling his phone.

After I stopped chuckling, I had an aha moment. Because of the rising Covid numbers and the lack of employees, most fast food companies around here have closed their inside dining areas which also means no restroom facilities. I guess, a girl has to do what a girl has to do.

I’m mature enough to remember the days when if you had to ‘go’ between gas stations, you had to get creative, but I don’t remember such a public display or a little girl exposed like that in a society with some individuals with strange proclivities and cell phones. Here’s hoping that little girl doesn’t even remember the episode and Dad gets a little wiser about choosing potty locations.

The rest of the weekend involved weeds – lots of digging and pulling of invasive weeds. I’m covering the cleared area with black plastic. Next spring I’ll plant some native seeds and see if I can deter them from coming back. I already know I’ll need big time luck with that.

The Cannas are still blooming, the Sugar Baby watermelon has really produced some delicious slices, and we had visitors. A total of nineteen turkeys strolled through one morning, and I was very glad I had my blackberries covered with netting.

Rain in the forecast for several days this week leading up to the long holiday weekend when we stay away from the tourists.

Since it is tourist season, the local news doesn’t report Covid numbers half the time because we don’t want to deter visitors and their wallets. Our Covid test positivity rate is at 6.0%, 16 died in a five day period, 2,736 active cases, the hospitals are crying for help, and we’re still only at 54% vaccination rate. It’s good that Covid is a thing of the past. Sorry for the snark, but geez this is not over by a long shot.

Hope this finds you all well and having a good start to your week. Have a good one!

About Judy@NewEnglandGardenAndThread

Master Gardener who enjoys gardening, quilting, photography, and traveling.
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62 Responses to Flashback

  1. That’s a bumper crop of wild fowl you got there! I miss seeing those big birds in our yard in Southern Ontario.

    “It’s good that Covid is a thing of the past. Sorry for the snark, but geez this is not over by a long shot.”

    I know you didn’t mean that to be “punny” but “long shot” = Vaccine shot? get it?

    Sorry, I haven’t had my full caffeine intake yet.

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  2. Those turkeys!!!
    Our numbers here in Vermont are not quite as bad, but they are on the rise despite our 86% vaccination rate, which does cut down on hospitalizations at least! Thank you Delta and the unvaccinated.
    Keep safe, and glad you are wisely staying away from those tourist crowds. We’ll have a small cookout with vaccinated family and leave it at that.
    PS Well, at least the father brought a potty chair…

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  3. Angela says:

    Sigh. I think, in that father’s place, I would have obscured the potty in the shelter of the car door and stood in front of it. If we want children to understand boundaries, as parents it’s our responsibility to create and model them. We are lying low here. PA was doing well with vaccinations (though behind my beloved NE states), yet our numbers are going up each week. Lying low and waiting for the third shot. And thinking of the parents who now have to make such hard decisions about school. Sigh again. Still hoping to go north in late September, but we’ll stay put if need be.

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    • I certainly understood the need for the chair, but I’m with you in that a little ‘cover’ would have gone a long way. It was right off a circle on a well-traveled road when there was actually a very large hotel parking lot right across from it where no one would have probably seen her. Yes, a lot of very tough decisions about school being made. I hope you get to make your trip.

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  4. I once wrote a letter (that was published) to the “Road Warrior” of the New Jersey Star Ledger about people relieving themselves by the side of the road. At the time I was spending many hours week on the road. My concept was, if you have a 4 door car pull onto the side of the road where one side of the car is protected, open both doors and stand between them. What you describe is a parent who is more self interested than concerned for the upbringing of the child. As a species are we really getting better because of technology?

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    • When I was a child, I remember my grandmother doing that exact thing with the doors when someone had to ‘go.’ I guess I was floored that in 2021 he would expose that little girl to anyone and everyone passing on the highway or pulling into the drive through. I sure hope whatever he was doing on the phone was worth it. Although said, I think the simple answer to your question is ‘no.’

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  5. My mind is reeling from the potty incident – the Dad just happened to be carrying a potty in his car? Brownie points for that (I suppose), but a huge ‘stupid stamp’ for placement. I’ll blame COVID messing with his brain, but it’s likely just ignorance.

    Nineteen turkeys!! I hear they freeze well. 🙂

    We are back to cancelling travel plans and avoiding crowds. Masks are a part of the daily routine. As I say that, Malcolm is sitting in a crowded room full of prospective jurors, hoping to be dismissed. Talk about bad luck.

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    • Yes to the Brownie points and the stupid stamp. I actually wondered if he was irritated and just sat it there to annoy the coffee shop. Thank you for the turkey chuckle. Here’s to Malcolm getting the adios so he doesn’t have to be cooped up for the trial. Trials are interesting, but right now fresh air versus recycled is safer.

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  6. Joyce says:

    I think cell phones have dulled collective senses. What’s on the screen is more important than what’s right in front of a lot of us. Pre-cell-phone, a daughter was awarded academic citations at her senior assembly. I had my nose behind the lens of my camera, even though we were too far back to get any photos worth saving. I always regretted not just living in the moment so I could enjoy it fully like my husband did.
    Lately, we’ve had a flock of turkeys wander our suburban neighborhood. They appear fearless, staring right back at me while they crisscross our front yard. But we stole their habitat, so I’d never do them any harm – even after our meager cluster of impatiens disappeared recently with only a mash of animal footprints left behind!
    Covid drama – ugh! I want to just shake people and scream at them: “Wear a mask and get the shots so we can end this &*^%^% thing!” And that’s all I’m venturing to say because I have my annual physical today and don’t need an elevated BP spike!
    Labor Day – and the oncoming fall color season – should be the beginning of the end of your tourist onslaught and the reclaim of your beautiful state! Hang in there!

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    • I don’t think Alexander Graham Bell could have envisioned our obsession with the phone. I’m guessing down the road the ortho docs handling neck strain will be doing a good business, and the folks handling arthritis in the hands or carpal tunnel will be calling Brinks to pick up a deposit. The turkeys don’t seem to mind humans. I had a window opening taking photos, they could hear me, looked up, and kept on checking for food items. That’s right keep the BP low. Once, we make it through Columbus weekend, it calms down until the holidays and skiing. Stay well, and hope the grands are all doing well with back to school.

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  7. BERNADETTE says:

    I am right with you regarding the potty incident. Totally crazy to expose your child to public scrutiny.

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  8. At my old home, we had a wild turkey that visited our bird feeders every day at 4 p.m. just like clockwork. She cleaned up the ground underneath the feeders and went on her way. We called her Georgia. Our cats thought she was the funniest looking cat they had ever seen.

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  9. Michelle says:

    When you gotta go you gotta go! 😁 My mom told me when she was little they kept a jug in the car because you could drive for miles before seeing a bathroom.

    The Covid numbers are rising here, too, but everyone is still out attending events. Even though restaurants are closing daily. It’s sad. I just stay home and away from everyone.

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    • Your Mom is right. There would be a gas station in a town and you might not see another one until another town. We sure have gotten use to multiple gas station choices, convenience stores and fast food providing an option. It is a strange and volatile time we’re living through right now, and one that we each have to consider and make choices. We are hanging close to home too. Stay well.

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  10. Murphy’s Law says:

    I give dad credit for carrying a potty chair in the car for his daughter. But good grief! Like so many others said, he couldn’t put her between car doors and then block the view of looky -lookers with his body? Just because she’s only 2-3 years old doesn’t mean she can’t be embarrassed. Nor does it make it okay to expose her like that. No way did dad come up with the idea of toting a potty chair around. Mom did! And if mom happens to follow you, dad is in for a world of hurt!,

    Covid numbers rising here too. We haven’t stopped wearing masks, social distancing or washing the skin off our hands. Sadly, we are in the minority group in our area for following CDC precautions. We avoid crowds at all costs. We still wipe groceries, and anything else that comes into the house, with disinfectant wipes. Maybe that’s an unnecessary precaution, but it can’t hurt. With all the fully vaccinated people getting Covid, we really can’t be too careful anymore. Even though the vaccinated folks likely won’t wind up hospitalized, or dying, it stinks that their lives are turned upside down because of ignorant, selfish idiots who won’t do the right thing. I’ll shut up now!

    Hope that iced coffee was worth the trip! Avoid the tourists like the Plague…..literally!,
    Ginger

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    • It was so strange to see that little girl exposed like that. I understood the need just not the environment. Hey, we all do what we need to do to try and stay safe in these challenging times, and we learn from each other. The iced coffee was really good, but I spent the rest of the day shaking my head.

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  11. Oddment says:

    I think COVID has made us all weary and a little brain-wobbly. Or maybe it’s the combination of COVID and cell phones. Or maybe it’s just that there’s more than one kind of turkey.

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  12. Yes, let’s chalk up the potty chair placement to Covid brain. As Oddment noted, we are all weary. In Maine, people are going about like it’s 1999 and Covid doesn’t exist. We, on the other hand, are keeping our distance from others and wearing our masks when we go out. As I’ve grumbled to family and friends, what the heck is wrong with people? Few people dislike wearing a mask as much as I do. I’m claustrophobic and hate having my mouth covered. But let us return to the potty chair with the following analogy…when I go out, I pull on my big girl panties. I wear a darned mask. End of story. 😉

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  13. My wonder-of-the-day is, instead of wealthier countries potentially stiffing parts of the world by inoculating ourselves THREE times (which may also not work well enough), why is the global/national medical community not tweaking vaccines to stand UP to Delta? Wasn’t being tweak-able the whole mRNA point? (As for clueless-dad, ugh; why wasn’t the potty just left in the vehicle??) All I know for SURE is, I now need some watermelon. 😉

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    • You bring up excellent questions that I wish we knew the answers to. Yes, potty in the back of the vehicle for that tiny girl would have made much better sense. I wish I could share the watermelon because I would. We cut a new one today, and it is delicious. I usually miss tomatoes when gardening is over, but this year I’ll miss them both.

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  14. Dan Antion says:

    I feel bad for the little girl. I understand he was in a tough spot, but, as others have pointed out, he had options.

    The turkeys look like they’re having a family reunion at your house. My wife and I have both been stopped by a group like this crossing the street (and taking their sweet time doing it).

    I hope you have a good week, and a safe quiet weekend. The watermelon looks delicious.

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  15. it’s very hard to figure out exactly what to do. Mostly, we do very little. We have a party coming up — and I’m a little worried about it. Normally, I’d be glad because it’s a chance to meet our governor and we don’t get many of those. But you just got me thinking.

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  16. One of our local farmers started feeding a couple of turkeys and now, he could start a breeding farm! We have — without feeding them — a LOT of turkeys around here, too. The march across the roads and you just have to sit and wait. I had one attack me car, which was REALLY funny.

    As for the little girl, that does seem a rather odd thing for a parent to do. Too much interest in cell phone and not nearly enough for his child.

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  17. I have no words for the father of that little girl. I do have a word about that watermelon, though: scrumptious! We’ve been arguing here about buying a whole watermelon lately (our fridge is already too full). So I’m not sharing this post with my wife, as I sometimes do. But that watermelon is wonderful looking. 🙂 – Marty

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    • Yes, I had no words either just amazement and not in a good way. We had never grown watermelons before and just for the two of us didn’t want those big hunkers. These are Sugar Baby and are 7-8″ across. Perfect for two. If we lived closer, I’d bring you one. 🙂

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  18. Eliza Waters says:

    I wonder about Covid brain, too. What are folks thinking? Re: masks, I quote Dirty Harry, “Are you feeling lucky, punk?” Wear the damn mask! 😀
    I love your flock of turkey visitors… good for pest control. 🙂

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  19. Karen says:

    Having had the orchard, we certainly did more than our share of turkeys. They especially liked our two large crabapple trees that were always loaded. Sometimes, every branch would have a turkey on eat eating them with others below catching what was dropping on the ground.

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  20. Nancy says:

    Look at all those Turkeys! It’s so funny because today as we were out for a ride in the country… we saw several turkeys eating in a field. They could of cared less about me trying to take their picture.
    The humidity broke for us just today but we may get some of the rain from Ida.
    As for Covid …last Friday (the day after the FDA approved Pfizer) there was a big uptick in Vaccinations here in Pennsylvania… 10,000 shots in one day! Yay!
    We are being a bit more careful when going shopping and wearing our masks. There has been more break through cases but they are all mild cases. Just give me the booster already…
    I could not believe those who didn’t want the vaccine but instead took some kind of deworming medicine for horses and cows. Seriously?? Good grief!
    Have a good week Judy… stay safe my friend!

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    • Our humidity is suppose to break, and that will be a gift. Hooray for your uptick in vaccines, and I’ll be in that booster line as soon as it becomes available. I had the same response when I read about the deworming meds. I hang closer to home and always wear a mask when out and about. Mask wearers are definitely in the minority, but as the numbers climb and climb, I don’t care. It seems to be the common sense thing to do. You stay well too and enjoy the lake life.

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  21. That canna is gorgeous and I really enjoyed seeing the garden shot. I’m just shaking my head at the pottery story. Reminds me of a neighbor who brought her two children over to play one day. Her young daughter had to go and this woman just had her pull down her pants and pee in our front yard rather than going back to grandma’s house one house away. I was not amused!

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  22. germac4 says:

    I was surprised to see so many turkeys…maybe they will eat the bugs. Spring time in Australia, and all we can do is just look out for the cockatoos who love lopping the tops off daffodils or any pretty bulbs that may be coming up. Interesting to see your Covid numbers, our biggest city, Sydney is trying hard to catch up with you, their numbers are rising, and spreading into regional areas….the silver lining (if there could be one) is that more people are coming up for vaccines.
    In the meanwhile we are spending spring days in the garden…nice! Enjoy your garden and keep well and safe.

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    • I’m getting a visual of your cockatoos and your bulbs. 🙂 I think you need my little silver pinwheels. I bought them on Amazon. They come on about a foot stake, you set them in a plant or on a post, the wind moves them, and the birds don’t like the reflective color. I move them around depending upon blooms or fruit, then pack them away for next year. As for Covid, common sense seems to have evaded a lot of folks and now we’re right back in the throes of the pandemic with no light at the end of the tunnel. Here, they declared it over so none of the tourist monies would be lost, and now we have young people paying the price. Sad state of affairs. I will keep my mask on, and hope you have wonderful days in your new spring garden.

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      • germac4 says:

        Thanks for the tip of the little silver pinwheels, that sounds promising. Yes, re Covid, our state Premiers are blaming each other and muddling along, with a different story every day. Unbelievable. Stay safe in the garden.

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  23. Tina Schell says:

    Had to laugh at your story about the little girl Judy (but heavens why did the dad have the potty with him in the first place?!) I remember on long car trips with my family (I have 4 brothers) mom always had a jar ready for us. It was SO much easier for the boys!!! Looks like the garden is thriving, no surprise, and that watermelon looks really yummy. Agree 100% with you covid comments, sadly

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    • The whole episode was so strange right there in a public parking lot next to a highway. The tomatoes have produced and are about to be done, and I have two watermelons left on the vine. The small watermelons have been a real treat. Covid numbers get worse every day. Sad state of affairs for all of us.

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  24. Cheeky turkeys! I’m glad they didn’t help themselves to the treats in your garden. I joined the double vax club today! I’ve never been excited about getting a needle before but this one is so important.

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  25. pbmgarden says:

    Wow, those turkeys! I saw several turkeys around here the first year we moved in (20 years ago), but none since.

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  26. Yum! That melon looks tasty. 19 Turkeys!! That’s quite a lot.

    I have technique of using the car doors for privacy that my Mom taught me when I was a kid when I need to pull over to “go” and there’s no restroom around. Now, my Grandson is using the same technique. I hope that Dad finds a better place for his daughter.

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    • Yes – tried and true method. 🙂 I have been worried about you because I haven’t gotten a post. I just went over to your blog to see when you posted last and was shocked. WordPress must have ‘unfollowed’ me like they do with Dan. I’ve had to follow him twice, and I still only get half of his posts. Now, I’ll need to check on you too. They sure make social blogging more difficult than it use to be. 🙂

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  27. joey says:

    Well ya don’t see that every day! I can’t tell you how many times I was on a long road trip and wished my daddy brought along a lil potty just for me, lol!
    Now that the temps are lower, I’m ready to tackle all the vines. I don’t get many weeds through summer – my beds are nice and full, only have to weed the vegetable garden through the heat, but the vines, oh the vines!

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